21 Mar Respect the discomfort – move! move! move!
I wrote a blog over the holidays about the holidays not having to be a train wreck.
The holidays can bring up a lot of discomfort that we push down every year and wonder why the holidays are so stressful. We can use this time of year to move forward the other 335 days a year! For those of you who wrote down how you felt over the holidays, good for you. Did you take the steps to move past your hurt? If not, no worries.
What do I mean by respect the discomfort (not just for the holidays but all year round)? Our bodies, emotions and thoughts are our indicator for what we need to pay attention to and heal. If we don’t pay attention our bodies or emotions start screaming louder and louder until we break – not literally of course but figuratively. We may get sick, we may become depressed, or we may repeat the same patters at home or work.
Yes, we are neither robots at home nor at work! We are raised by a family, have gone to school, have friends and all sorts of experiences through out our lives. Some of them positive in our rear view mirror and some of them not so pleasant. No matter the context, all experiences are valuable, happen to us for a reason and we can get past them.
We are accountable for understanding and dealing with them. No one else can take way the hurt or pain we have. Rarely will anyone from our past apologize to us because they likely have no idea they have hurt us. When those suppressed how we have felt, its really uncomfortable, foreign and “not like us”. That is OK. Moving forward is for us and us only. Respect the discomfort, don’t discredit it but let it guide you.
I used to HATE, I mean HATE journaling but now I find it necessary go move energy. I had no idea how angry I was and wow did that feel foreign. I would journal, swear and write so hard that the pen almost went through the page. I had TON of pent up anger that was coming across in passive aggressive ways. Didn’t feel good but I knew I had to get it out. Here is what I do:
• Identify and feel the feeling
• Write it out and enable yourself to make a shift in the energy
• Finish and tear up, burn, shred, stomp on the page. Fill yourself up with love, say a prayer or whatever you need to replace that negativity with love!
I am creating a journal to help you with this if you are interested. More soon!